The one thing I realize as I get older is looking back I should have just told people how I felt. This was often a problem. I stuck with some people too long while I didn’t tell others how much I cared. I would like to let you know that it will eventually give you something to reflect on.
I don’t know why I didn’t accept my feelings at the time or do something about them except that I was busy and thought there were more important things to worry about. Look how wrong I was. At that time I put the urgent above the important.
Why? I feel as a young man I had to work harder, make money, and get ahead in life. Looking back, I really didn’t do that as well as I would have liked. My priorities were not as good as I thought.
When I look back, I think about my brother-in-law and what a good time we used to have together. When we were younger, we would have fun. That usually included a few drinks and maybe going somewhere like an arcade or movie. It was fun. We almost always had good times. He was my brother, at least I felt that way.
The reality is that I enjoyed his sense of humor, which I really appreciated. Sure, he was rough around the edges, so am I. That doesn’t mean we should walk away from someone. The good comes with the bad. The bad may not be so bad after all.
He was married to my sister for over 40 years, then he passed away of lung cancer. It made me very sad but he didn’t seem to mind because he outlived his dad. I know it sounds crazy but that gave him a feeling that he was OK.
I really miss him even though I know he was a bad influence when I was young. He partied a bit too much, did so many things on a whim. Very spur of the moment. Crazy but fun. Those were the greatest memories, even though they didn’t always turn out great. The memory is still there.
He had a lot of good qualities and traits like loyalty and honesty. The honesty thing sometimes felt like an asshole thing. Then he would kid and tease to the point it would piss people off. Maybe that was not a good thing.
He was fun and lovable. Why does everyone in your life have to be a good influence? Why can’t we just love people for who they are? So many people get tossed aside because others see them as a problem when they’re not, they just annoy them.
I know these thoughts are probably making you uncomfortable because we all have people in our lives that we are embarrassed of or maybe think we should be without. But do they have a good heart? Do they mean well most of the time, regardless of their jokes or what they say? I think most of them do.
Can you forgive them and accept them? Would you?
I get the fact that we have to cut toxic people from our lives, all I am saying is choose wisely. I held on to the wrong people way too long, I get that. However, I feel I let some people go for the wrong reasons.
However, family is family.
Losing a loved one is hard, especially when they’re a bit nutty in real life. However, I still loved him like a brother. I respect him as well. He was truly loved and he was a good person.
So for all of you that tolerate someone because you love them, I understand and it’s OK. When they’re gone they will give you some of the greatest memories of your life.
It’s OK to love someone that’s a little bit different or off. It’s OK to forgive them and yourself.
My brother-in-law was not only a good person, he was someone I loved. I miss him. He was truly a brother of mine. I am glad I told him while he was alive. I was glad I could forgive him for his bullshit just like he forgave me for all of my stupid bullshit. It really doesn’t matter.
What matters to me today is that I got to share my feelings with him. He knew and I know. That’s really what I think about today.
Who do you miss or love? Have you told them how you feel? Can you forgive them for any friction you had between you two? Maybe you need to ask forgiveness.
Who will you miss that you haven’t told them you love them. If you didn’t. Please do as soon as you can. You will thank yourself later. As far as I know, we don’t live forever, neither will they.
Make peace as soon as you can. Someday will be too late. Later could be too late. I was fortunate because I got the opportunity. I would not recommend waiting too long. I lost him to cancer and I don’t want you to miss your opportunity.
It’s OK to tell someone you love them.
It’s OK to forgive someone.
Someday it will be too late.
Sometimes we have to share our feelings when you can, even if the timing doesn’t seem right. Love can be complicated.
Who would you like to open up to?
Remember, it’s OK to tell someone you love them.
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