I often hear people judging people on events that happened 20, 30, or even 100 years ago. That drives me crazy because times were different then, weren’t they? How can we judge people today on what they did 20 years ago when 20 years ago that behavior was not only normal, but expected.
When I look back at my parents and how they lived, I try to remember what they lived through. My parents lived through world wars, depressions, and other life changing events. My mom held on to things way too long, but in a depression you only had what you kept. I honestly believe she thought it would happen again. She was prepared for it this time.
It was different for them as it is different for us. Are we better? Probably not. My dad had a chip on his shoulder, but to be honest, I didn’t walk in his shoes. I didn’t live through what he did.
Today people look back at those attitudes and actions judging them. How can we judge them? We came from them. Those times had different rules and expectations. People weren’t so sensitive. They were tougher and didn’t expect others to be considerate. That’s how some people were, they spoke their mind no matter what. Today if you say the wrong thing you get blasted. Even if you said it 20 years ago. When I see old videos pop up and people judging someone who said something 20 or more years ago, I shrug. Who cares, especially if that person is dead. Why does it matter today? More importantly, why do we care today? Whether you agree or disagree, who cares unless it was a lawmaker and we’re living with a law that no longer applies today. That’s crazy!
I am not saying people said good things 50 years ago, but I am saying you have to look at the time they said it. I would like to think we’re evolving. To hold it against them today is just stupid. People want to change for the better if they can.
Also, I am not saying you have to always be nice or say things that people want to hear, that’s just stupid. You have to speak your mind with diplomacy, if you can. I have people complain about things I say, even if they agree with me. It’s funny how someone can cause so much grief because they take what I said out of context or misunderstood what I was trying to say. Instead of asking me, they jump to conclusions and tell everyone else what they think trying to sway other’s opinions about me. I’m OK with that, I just wish they would talk directly to me. After all, I like a good conversation.
I want to change for the better, but that involves learning and education and the will to be better. That’s how we evolve as individuals. You have to want to be better. I want to be better, so I take on some challenges I think will make me better.
What about you, how do you want to evolve?
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